7 Principles of Bending, #6

7 Principles of Bending, #6

6. Vulnerability is strength in disguise. Playing Truth or Dare back in the ‘80s was one of my first recollections of being vulnerable. Gulp. If I just stuck with my more commonplace truths like “I like medium-rare steak” or “I’ve been thrown off a bucking horse,”...
7 Principles of Bending, #5

7 Principles of Bending, #5

5. Intentionally refresh your thinking. My dad was consistent about one consistency. He’d come home from the gas station at noon, eat lunch, and go plop on the living room sofa for a 30-minute nap. Then he’d put in five hours more at work and often two hours in the...

7 Principles of Bending, #4

Dare to muddle through the messiness. Let’s face it. Life just gets messy at times. A real heap of discombobulated junk. Kind of like my story in my Two Days Longer about the morning after my mom died. In numbing his grief and exhaustion, my dad accidentally tossed...
7 Principles of Bending, #3

7 Principles of Bending, #3

Floating moves you farther ahead than flailing. Flailing is seldom a graceful sight. Arms wildly flapping. Maybe a bit of shrieking. I’ve been there. Think person freaked by a tarantula or boa constrictor (yep, I’ve been surprised by both creatures in the wild). Or...

7 Principles of Bending, #2

Resiliency is a process not a point. So often in coming back from a rough patch, you want life to begin anew on your timetable. You make a decision to move forward, but true resiliency or your “bend strength” is shaped over time and not in the today. Your true grit is...

7 Principles of Bending, #1

1. Pain is not the enemy. Years ago after two injury car accidents, I labeled my spinal pain as the “silent tormentor.” I begged for the pain to stop, for the emotional crushing to end. But you know what? The pain was not the enemy. I was. While I was enduring the...